Recently, I started to realize something. Something that I am surprised I didn’t think about before. That is the concept of Lesbian Privilege.
You may wonder what I mean by that. By default, being a gay woman puts you in not one but two minority categories. This is true, but that doesn’t take away the fact that it is easy for us to have babies.
When you are in a lesbian relationship, you have two potential people that can get pregnant and have a child. Granted there may be some lesbians, such as myself, who have zero desire to be pregnant and carry a baby. But still, it is possible for me especially if my girlfriend could not for some reason. I can get pregnant. I can have a baby. Heck, I could have a few babies. It is an expensive process as IVF treatments are not cheap. But when my girlfriend and I decide to have babies, we already have the means to do so, with two people that could potentially carry them. We don’t have to go around looking for a surrogate and we don’t have to adopt if we don’t want to even though we definitely do. The point is, we can have a child that is biologically one of us without the hassle of finding someone else to carry our child.
How did I even start to think about this, you ask? It is not because Samantha and I are looking to have a child anytime soon. It was because of a couple that I came across on Facebook, Joe & Joey. They are gay men who were looking to adopt and were having a hard time adopting. Therefore, they did a parody of Meghan Trainor’s song, “Dear Future Husband” and made it “Dear Future Baby.” I have to say it was quite clever and I am very happy for them as they were able to find their son Jackson because of it and he is freaking adorable.
It got me thinking how we all have privilege in different ways and how important it is to acknowledge your privilege.